By Maureen Weisner
Seduction…is NOT just about sex. What I am talking about are comfort zones, those easy, familiar places we go to many times each day. You’ll hear about what they are, how to recognize them, and how to break out of them.
Comfort zones are like the rest stops on the highway of your life. Sometimes they serve a purpose and sometimes… they are the places to hide out, to be slippery, to get close, but no cigar buddy. The scenic overlook is a photo opportunity, not your permanent address. And yet, I want them, need them, we all do. Can you imagine getting up in the morning to an adventure? Not in the context of drama and excitement-no. When I get out of bed to brush my teeth, I want to know where I am going, at least for the moment. I am not looking for tacks on the floor and no hot water. Yes, we need some sameness in our lives, just as we need to breathe. Who wants a surprise when you turn on the washing machine or go to the supermarket? Macaroni and cheese, meatloaf- these are delicious and delightful but so is caviar, and it is special.
How do we give ourselves a wake up call when it may be easier to leave things as they are? Comfort zones do not have warning lights. They do not look like dangerous places beckoning us to enter, taunting us to remain at the risk of losing ourselves. It is not your freak out zone. It feels good and we may want to hang out there…a lot. By representing the familiar, it seduces us away from our goals and prevents us from achieving greatness.
What I am talking about is the place that keeps us from growing BIGGER. How many of you can conceive of a goal, big or small, it does not matter for the moment. How many of us are in that car with the pedal to the metal, going so quickly in pursuit of our goal that we get whiplash? We can see it, feel it, and almost touch it. We are 85% of the way there and…we let up on that accelerator. Not quite braking, but certainly slowing down. But…I’m almost there, what is the story here? What has stopped me? Surely I want this. Surely I own this! But I am scared. Here comes that saboteur. Whoa -where do you think you’re going? Big plans- I don’t think so. Or how about this voice-Well, you almost made it. You really did try. Things just got in the -way. It’s not your fault. What did they expect from you? No one was there to help. Wow, does this have a familiar ring to it? So close, feeling great and then looking around and wait a minute-this is scary. I can’t do this, it’s really uncomfortable.
If you build your house next to a mountain and the front door opens onto the side of it, you do not allow yourself to see the beauty before you, only the inconvenience every time you enter or leave. Now, if you take a deep breath and move that house BACK a bit, not only can you see the majesty ahead of you but you can enjoy this new vista and still be in the same zip code. What a different perspective!!
What do we ABSOLUTELY know about comfort zones?
• We all live in them from time to time.
• We can use humor and visualization to move forward.
• We have the POWER to do so.
How can we persist when the going gets tough or the terrain is unfamiliar? How can we push way beyond anyplace we ever thought we could be? How can we dig deep to uncover the diamonds in there? How can we dream big and be big? What’s the cost to do it? What’s the cost to NOT do it?
So many questions and the answers are different for everyone. However, when you surround yourself with positive energy, allies, and support, when you publicly proclaim- I CAN DO IT… YOU WILL DO IT!!!!
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